When there’s time, thinking about a lot of things comes naturally. Right now, I have more than enough time to think about things even those that I should have forgotten by now. This is why sometimes, I’d rather be too busy to care than be too free not to — thinking about certain things is sometimes exhausting. It’s often easier to forget about everything and drown yourself in work, career, school, schedules, activities and events. But when you’re idle and doing nothing, that’s when the thinking starts and the reminiscing as well then in creeps the loneliness — the reality that you are alone in the world, that nobody actually cares about you, that you are lost, and all the things you have done in the past amount to nothing important at all.
There are people who definitely recognize that a career is not everything, that money can’t ‘probably’ buy you happiness (probably in a sense that it can sometimes, temporarily). But these same people drown themselves in their respective careers not because it is what is most important in their lives but because there is nothing else left. When you are someone who is on the margin of romance, meaning not one time were you ever asked out on a date and not one time did you receive a secret admirer letter or even a confession, you suddenly grab the second best thing in your life — a flamboyant career (cause you have the time and luxury to). Also when you’re someone who in his/her present circle is not one who can easily find true friends but only professional acquaintances, then career is the way to go to grow a professional social network. Yes you know a lot of people, by name and face and by designation but do you really know them and do they really know you. People who misconstrue men and women who are focused in their careers probably haven’t experienced that part in their life where nothing else matters but your career because there is, in reality, nothing else. Importance no longer places any hierarchical value because there is nothing to weigh to begin with, the other balance is as empty as a dried up well. So career people such as this dwell in their career and busy social or working lives to fulfill their heart’s needs — that human connection. So when these people tip from the busy scale to the idle stage, that’s where the “depression” comes in.
Most of such career people get drowned in their idle-induced depression and find it hard to function during these idle stages hence they revert to their busy schedules and the circle never ends, by the time they realize this mistake, it’s already too late — they just can’t escape it anymore. Others embrace their idle moments and turn them into self-realization sessions. Yes, the loneliness does kick in during those times but at those moments, these people try to assess what they are missing in their lives. They start to question: “Why is it that even with a great career, I still succumb to loneliness? Why am I not really happy?” It is a legitimate question, one that most career-driven people get to realize only during the idle stages of their lives. Each one gets a different conclusion to this self-assessment depending on the current circumstances he/she faces and also based on the experiences he/she had in the past. Some think that it’s time to live life to the fullest because a great career is not everything. Others end up contented with the status quo, concluding that they still have a lot more work to do and maintaining a career is more of a priority as of the moment, life can come next time. While the rest conclude that even if they try they’d never get that chance to be happy anymore and the only assurance that they have to leave a certain legacy in this world is by being the best in their respective career.
Career-driven people do think about life as well because they also recognize that career is not everything, at least at one point in their lives they did or they still do. So don’t judge career-driven people, you don’t know what their thinking. If they end up choosing career over their happiness (or if they end up thinking that career is their happiness), let them. They’re not living your life, you have no right to tell them what to do — except when you’re being prejudiced by their life choices but still… No one should apologize to anyone for wanting to fulfill his/her dreams. Like what Rowena from Supernatural said, “I will not apologize for being a career woman!” Yes, no one should. Especially not women.